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That list of identities will never contain the word mother.

Black. She/Her. Cis. Hetero. College-educated. Cancer survivor. Blissfully married. 30.

That list of identities will never contain the word mother.

It’s the pandemic, you’re tempted to rationalize. It’s climate change, you muse.

Ah, it makes sense now; it’s all that racialized trauma.

You’d be right. But this decision transcends the external and lies deep within.

From the word Black, you’ll bring expectations to this piece by association. I expected that.

Black. Woman. American. If you can, strip your eyes of the film of caste, of indoctrination, or association. Shed that…


Amber the Alchemist explains this week’s tarot and oracle pull

Baba Cutlass Tarot Card. Akamara Deck.

The medicine offered us by the tarot card Baba Cutlass is one of discernment, logic, awareness, clarity, logic, structure, and authority. It blends well with the astrological transits of this week as well. Paired with Mercury (the planet of communication) currently stationed in the sign of Gemini, we have an opportunity to sort out all matters of the mind, expression, and communication. In our May 2021 horoscope, ZORA resident astrologer Ashleigh D. Jay says of this transit: “it’s important to write, record, and document all ideas that come to mind. …

We’re not going back to “normal.”

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Kimani Jones had been happily working in the wedding industry in New York City as a content creator when news about Covid-19 broke. She, like many workers across the country, was sent home with her laptop and work file, assured her job was safe and told to return when the pandemic blew over. Shortly after, she received an email that the company was laying off the team, but would bring them back. But that never happened.

The unemployment program payouts were dwindling, and even with the stimulus payments, Jones and her chronically-ill husband needed…


Amber the Alchemist pulls a tarot and an oracle card just for you

Omo Calabash by Akamaratarot .

There is magic in the unexpected this week. Serendipitous synchronicities are omens. Use them to embrace your trust-relationship with self, your ability to co-create with the universe, and your ability to be a catalyst for healing.

Healing isn’t linear nor is it always sparked by intention. There are opportunities for us to heal all of our bodies (spiritual, mental, emotional, physical bodies daily), but are we attentive and receptive to them?

Spirit meets us with a challenge this week to reconnect to our own magic — the power of infinite possibility — and lean into our child-like innocence.

Through the…

Saluting the ladies who forge an older — or single — path to being a mommy

Viola Davis and her daughter, Genesis Tennon, in 2017 at the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Photo: Paul Archuleta/FilmMagic/Getty Images

Recently Tiffany Haddish revealed that she is taking parenting classes in preparation for adoption. Haddish, 41, told E’s Daily Pop show that she wanted to adopt an older child, age 5 or older. Today, more and more women are choosing motherhood later in life — and choosing to love on older, adopted children as well. There are more options than ever before to help achieve these goals including in vitro fertilization (IVF) and intrauterine insemination (IUI), surrogacy, and, of course, adoption.

Haddish is not the only celebrity looking into adoption as a pathway to motherhood. Celebrities including Academy Award-winner Viola…

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Venus ended her time in Taurus and flitted over to Gemini on May 8, increasing the desire to chat and exchange insight with people who pique our curiosity and those who can help us impact our community. Did you feel it?

Meanwhile here is one way to think about and work with this week’s new moon energy:

May 11 brings the Taurus new moon, which asks us to do the work to grow. Perhaps you need a new landscape to grow on or new seeds to plant or new nurturing methods. Either way, this is a great lunation for making…

May’s astrological messages ask us to look within

May kicks off with us still reeling from the revelations of the Scorpio full moon while also seeking fresh definitions of stability. These horoscopes are written with you in mind. Short on time? Think about the below three things to keep in mind for the month. Sitting down with your coffee or tea? Peep the detailed astrological summary of the month. Scroll beyond that to find specific thoughts for your sign.

Three things to keep in mind

  • How do you nurture the people/possessions/knowledge you value?
  • The Saturn retrograde could feel like your mind is being blown. Let it.
  • The Mercury retrograde in Gemini approaches at the…

After living through a pandemic, I feel anything but “hot.”

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When Meg Thee Stallion’s “Hot Girl Summer” went viral in early summer 2019, women from all walks of life quickly jumped on the bandwagon. Then, COVID hit, and summer 2020 was officially canceled and consisted mainly of online DJ parties, what we now know as Versuz, and way too many social media dance challenges. But now, as the world has begun to reopen and it appears that summer 2021 is scheduled to be on and popping, handfuls of women are gearing up for a hot girl summer 2020 redo, and…

What does it mean to be a mother? What does it mean to be a Black mother? Those two questions continue to yield entirely different answers in America today. As the biracial mother of a 4-year-old girl with both Asian American and African American roots, and a father from Spain to boot, I am constantly aware of the way her identity is being shaped by the sights and smells and sounds that she takes in every day — on television, at the playground, and in her preschool classroom.

“Her hair is curly like mine,” she’ll say when we see another…

Get the most out of your alone time with these masturbation tips.

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May is National Masturbation Month and we honestly can’t think of a better way to show yourself some love than by really loving on yourself.

Masturbation isn’t something to be ashamed, secretive or embarrassed about. In fact, self pleasure is not only a good way to pass the time, but it can help you feel less stressed, feel more motivated and just feel good about life.

[Solo sex] is about more than just spending a couple of feel-good minutes in bed. Intimate alone time should leave you more…

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