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Your Love Journey Must Begin Within
Radical self-love helps us know the difference between being in love and being loved
“Love is never any better than the lover.” — Toni Morrison
When writing about love, I often call on the words and concepts of those who have somehow been able to make love make sense. Even when the ideas and definitions contradict each other, some people have been able to clearly articulate love as an experience, as an essential tool for survival, and as inextricably embedded in the definition of humanity. It’s incredibly difficult for me to write about love in any linear, structured way because that’s never been my experience with it; love’s twists, turns, ups, and downs have kept me perpetually on my toes while simultaneously knocking me off my feet. One thing I know for certain, though, is that how we collectively experience love relies entirely on who and how we are as the lovers.
The distinction between loving someone and being in love may have, at one time, been easy enough to outline — buying clothes is love, washing their clothes is being in love… or something meme-able like that. Popular culture has mostly constructed love from an arguably archaic blueprint and the guidelines for how we should interpret and experience love have come from the same…
