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Two Exes Wasted My Time. So I Sent Them Invoices.

Can the attempt to get paid by men who disappointed me deliver something bigger than healing?

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Days after my 32nd birthday, I sat hunched over my computer typing feverishly into oblivion as the sky darkened outside. It was Memorial Day weekend and instead of being at someone’s barbecue drunkenly two-stepping to Earth…




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Nneka M. Okona

Nneka M. Okona

Heart-centered writer writing about travel, food, personal growth and self-discovery.

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