Published in


Sex & Love

The Inconvenient Truth About Monogamy

Do you think monogamy was put in practice to benefit women? Think again.

Closeup of a Black woman’s hand with an engagement ring.
Photo: Roy Hsu/Getty Images

In 2017 I was shooting an episode of the Grapevine where the topic of discussion was gold diggers. I attempted to explain the subtle ways our romantic customs center male desire, often at the expense of female agency.




A publication from Medium that centers the stories, poetry, essays and thoughts of women of color.

Recommended from Medium

Friends: (Make New Friends And) Keep The Old

5 Steps to Break Free from a Destructive Relationship

Should I Text My Ex?

An Advice Column I Write to Myself, Letter One— Q: Dear Kelly, What if I think I’m a total piece of…

Fixing Love

Walking Back and Forth, Back and Forth

Where there is an excuse there is generally find an ego lurking!

We Share the Kids, Not the Dog

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Ayesha K. Faines

Ayesha K. Faines

I’m a columnist for Zora 🍯, founder of Women Love Power, talking head & salsera 💃🏾! WomenLovePower.com | IG & Twitter @ayeshakfaines.

More from Medium

How Was It Like To Be a Teenager in Nazi-Occupied Territory During WW2

From Dating Site to Saying the Big, “YES!”