The Courage to Say No, Without the Guilt
How I’ve learned to navigate sex on my own terms
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6 min readJul 3, 2019
Some time ago, my partner was feeling frisky. I wasn’t. We’d been in the midst of a dry spell, and I was hyperaware of it. But I was exhausted and all I wanted to do was sleep. My husband respected my decision — no begging, no insisting. And yet, I was consumed with guilt.
