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I took the plunge and stopped relaxing my hair a few years ago, and I haven’t looked back

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The entitlement of White men is notorious and well-documented. They think nothing of laying claim to land they just sailed their ships up to and forcing their religion upon other cultures they haven’t deigned to understand. Also, boat shoes. Therefore, it should not surprise you to hear that after spending…

My Pen Is Mighty

How to know if your ‘cheap’ dinner or over-the-top extravaganza bodes well for a budding relationship

The first date tells you a lot about a person. Take notes! Image: Getty.

Throughout the years, I have heard some wild first-date stories. I’ve also heard some of the most romantic tales ever. And, of course, I’ve had my share of dates where the guy was so embarrassingly cheap that he shouldn’t have been allowed to ever enter a restaurant again.

Now, before…

Each of the planets plays a role the quality of your relationships

Is love written in the stars for you? (Photo credit: Getty Images)

Venus and the Moon are the primary focus when reading what an astrological chart says about romantic relationships. And that is completely fair, as the Moon and Venus tend to show up quite loudly in interpersonal relationships. But each of the planets can play a key function in the quality…

Your Pleasure

Saying “no” isn’t always nice, but it is necessary.

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Several months ago, just as a pandemic weary world was getting excited about a new app called Clubhouse, I hosted a conversation that I cheekily called “The Audacity of Nope.” …


It’s not his gorgeous penis, his looks, attitude, or success that attracts me most. It’s the idea that it’s not too late for me.

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This guy just sent me a picture of his penis — two to be exact — and holy shit, you guys, it’s beautiful. However, as a general rule, I think all penises are ugly unless I’m in love with the man wielding said phallus. Under those circumstances, his dick might…


Some people were monuments. They were institutions. Eras. And losing X is losing the only other person who remembers what I remember about us.

With DMX on the set of Aaliyah’s posthumous ‘I Miss You’ video shoot, 2002.

I loved him, still. He was one of those people you could never forget, the kind you couldn’t help but check up on years after you swore you’d never talk to him again. He was loveable and wild, and he was more careful with others than he was with himself…


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