Happy New Year, ZORA fam. We hope you’re starting 2021 with the intention to put yourself and your needs first. But we know this does not always come easy. In her column, Five Things, Medium writer Ashley C. Ford expresses the difficulty in speaking up for yourself and what you want.
“Naming what I want, and actually following through, feels like I’ve gotten away with something,” Ford writes. “It’s fascinating how attempts at centering myself feel like stealing. I’m still getting used to getting my way sometimes, for asking for what I want and unburdening myself from what I don’t.”
Ayesha Faines is ZORA’s newest Sex & Relationships columnist. You’ll be hearing from her on a biweekly basis.
I’ll never forget the woman who asked me how she could open herself to love again.
I was speaking on a panel in Brooklyn, and I can still picture the vacant look in her eyes. She said that after multiple heartbreaks, she felt she’d become invisible. The few men who did approach her all seemed to have bad intentions. …
“Local candidates only.”
“We don’t allow remote work.”
“You need to be in the office to foster collaboration on your team.”
Three months ago, companies were at liberty to enforce the conditions listed above. However, since the first stay-at-home orders were issued, some of these same companies have suddenly figured out how to support employees working from home. Concerns about employees prioritizing household tasks over work have all but dissipated as leaders finally accept that remote workers are actually very productive and typically put in more hours than in-office employees as a result of not having to commute. …
Bold, yet refined. A publication from Medium for Black women.