Stop Asking Your Black Friends ‘How Are You?’

The answer to that question should be obvious. Instead, ask how you can help.

Black woman protesting the grand jury decision in Breonna Taylor’s case.
A woman chants as people protest the grand jury decision in the Breonna Taylor case on September 23, 2020 in Denver, United States. Photo: Michael Ciaglo/Getty Images

The reality is that Black people are not okay right now.

Think of ways to actually support your friends and understand how they feel.

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