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Stop Asking Your Black Friends ‘How Are You?’

The answer to that question should be obvious. Instead, ask how you can help.

Black woman protesting the grand jury decision in Breonna Taylor’s case.
A woman chants as people protest the grand jury decision in the Breonna Taylor case on September 23, 2020 in Denver, United States. Photo: Michael Ciaglo/Getty Images

As a Black woman, on September 23, 2020, I felt numb — very numb.

I have already dealt with a lot of hurt and disappointment this year, but today I, and the rest of the country, found out that Breonna Taylor did not get full justice




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