Some Women’s Romantic Relationships Suck

I’m very much happily single after what I’ve heard lately.

It’s easy to fantasize about your future romantic partner when you’re single. It’s good to explore what it is that you want. Putting together a list of standards is all well and good. Self-reflecting on what you value is a great prerequisite to getting into the dating scene.

But if you daydream too much, you might become blind to red flags.

I’ve been guilty of projecting my fantasy onto a guy I was dating before. In doing that, I was dating his potential or a made-up version of him in my head. I wasn’t seeing who he was and what he was putting down right in front of me.

Lately, I’ve been an observer.

I haven’t been dating at all. I guess that’s a side effect of going on a healing journey. Part of that journey is to see if you can achieve genuine happiness on your own. I’m happy to report, I’ve done that.

So now, I’m scared to really put my best foot forward in dating again. Mostly, because a lot of women are unhappily coupled.

I mean, are y’all okay?

I’m about to turn 30, so a lot of my girlfriends are either getting married, or they’re breaking off their…