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Please Don’t Ask Me to Help You Put on a Sari

My Brownness does not mean I have the knowledge you seek

Illustration: Fei Fei

“Can you help me put on a sari? I have an Indian wedding I am attending next weekend!”

That was at least the second time during my career I was asked that question. In both instances, I vaguely knew the person. In both instances, they randomly approached me at work.




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Mita Mallick

Mita Mallick

Corporate Change Maker. Passionate about creating inclusive workplaces and communities. And a Super Mom.

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