Not every friendship survives
Dear ZORA Family,
Lately I’ve had some vivid recurring dreams in which my former best friend from grade school keeps making an appearance. I say ‘former’ because we had an adult-size falling out several years ago when she had trouble accepting my new interracial relationship. We parted ways rather acrimoniously at a birthday party for my then eleven-year-old. There, between the mosh pit and the trampoline floor, I remember her saying to me, “How do we explain to our daughters that we are not getting along?” I replied, “Our daughters need to know that not everyone gets along all the time, even close friends.”
💔 READ: On ‘Insecure’ Molly and Issa’s Friendship Is At Its Breaking Point
With all of the talk about Issa and Molly’s tenuous friendship this season on HBO’s ‘Insecure,’ the notion of evolving a relationship with a close friend has become a hot topic. How do we decide when we can grow together or that we must grow apart? I’m certainly no expert, but I do know this much is real: True ride-or-die friends accept you, flaws and all, and want you to win. They also allow you the space to make your own decisions rather than judge you for them.
🗣 READ: Niecy Nash Is The Hardest Working Woman In Hollywood
Nowadays due to the #QuarantineLife, I spend more time with the “best friends in my head,” like the nurturing and funny characters Niecy Nash portrays, or like my IG wannabe, Kaviaa’s mom, aka Gabrielle Union (who has a new children’s book out BTW), but that’s okay. My requirements for what constitutes friendship have shifted over the years, and perhaps Issa and Molly will find a way to make peace with that too.
Stay in touch,
Vanessa K. De Luca, Editor-in-Chief
✨ We’re entering Gemini season—get your friendly astrological guidance in our ZORAscope! ✨
