My Strength Is Not Solely Measured by My Struggle or Ability to Save Everyone
As much as I love being called a “strong Black woman,” it also makes me cringe because so much of our strength is defined by the struggles and hardships we face rather than how we find healing and enjoying our daily state of being.
The compliment can also cause severe anxiety and trigger the Superwoman Syndrome. According to Cheryl L. Woods-Giscombé, PhD, and her research, Superwoman Syndrome was born when Black women started denouncing society’s negative characterizations of Black women, such as “Jezebel” and “Welfare Queen,” in efforts to highlight the traits that go unnoticed. She cites gender oppression, racism, and disenfranchisement as the reason why Black women had to take on all the roles such as being providers, nurturers, and breadwinners for their families.
Having always heard of Superwoman Syndrome but never knowing the true meaning, I was not surprised once I finally understood the roots. This syndrome came from Black women doing everything in their power to prove themselves to society, shed light on their magic, and do everything for everybody. We work so hard to maintain this strong image that we can end up losing ourselves and becoming disconnected.
Also, do not forget about the people, institutions, and groups that constantly look to Black women…
