ZORA
Published in

ZORA

My Parents Are Married, But My Dad Has a Mistress

It’s complicated

A Black woman assists her elder father with his collar as they prepare for a party.
Photo: Cavan Images/Getty Images

My parents met at a party in New York City during a double date in the early ’70s. The couples switched partners because my mother and father had better chemistry. Less than a year later, they married.

They are technically still married, but have been separated for over two decades. I assumed they loved each other dearly in…

--

--

--

A publication from Medium that centers the stories, poetry, essays and thoughts of women of color.

Recommended from Medium

Home is where the heartache is

The Small Green Church

Ultimate Woman

About Me — Ashley J.J. White

An old lady

Even Heroes Can Be Drunks

The Living Stories of Lost Loved Ones

A statue of Lord Ganesha, Hindu god of wisdom and new beginnings, against a blue sky filled with birds.

My mother’s first trip abroad

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Carolyn Desalu

Carolyn Desalu

Essayist + lifestyle writer. Bylines in Thrillist, Catapult, Essence, The Globe and Mail, Atlanta Journal-Constitution + more. Literary agents, holler.

More from Medium

Stop Shaming Or Pitying Me Because I’m Single

To the Casual Acquaintances We Lost Along the Pandemic

This is What’s Wrong with Reality TV Shows Like ‘Love is Blind’

It’s Time To Start Believing What You’ve Already Heard About Toxic Beauty Standards