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I Don’t Actually Want This Relationship

My heart and mind were opposed, so I gave myself permission to choose the truth

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I loved a man once. Fiercely and deeply. At least I thought so at the time. I saw the depths of his soul each time I looked into his eyes. Eyes are my favorite thing about people and the first thing I notice. The eyes tell so much. I saw so much when I looked into…




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