I Don’t Have A Problem With “Auntie”

Vena Moore
ZORA
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5 min readSep 23, 2023

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Why I don’t feel the same way as other Black women do about the polarizing term “auntie.”

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I’ve seen a lot of debate over the term “auntie,” over the last few years. The consensus seems to be that Black women hate the term, and it should be banished from our vocabulary. However, I’m going to offer what might be an unpopular opinion because, unlike other Black women, I don’t despise the term.

Now that I’m in my 50s, I’ve reached the point in my life where I can be referred to as “auntie.” I am an actual aunt, with one niece, three nephews, and two great-nieces. However, some younger people may wish to refer to me as an auntie as a sign of respect. In the Black community though, the term is under debate.

Some prominent older Black woman celebrities such as Oprah and Ava Duvernay detest the term and refuse to be referred to as such. However, Congresswoman Maxine Waters embraced it. Why is the term “auntie” so heated in the Black community?

How “Auntie” Became a Derogatory Term

The term “auntie” among non-Black people of color such as Asians and Latinos as well as with continental Africans denotes a term of respect and isn’t limited to a woman who is a parent’s sister. They use the term to refer to any middle-aged or elderly woman. However, African Americans…

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Vena Moore
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Dismantling white, male supremacy one word at a time.