How to Support Your Strong Friend — And Yourself
It’s time to dispel the myth of the strong Black woman, for good
Amid the fifth month of a global pandemic, continued anti-Black violence around the world, and the gendered oppression Black women face, sisters’ common refrain remains “I’m okay.” Even if Black women are overwhelmed, there is the expectation they will endure it with the bravery and strength associated with Black womanhood. Perhaps that is why news of Tamar Braxton’s hospitalization, following an alleged suicide attempt, took many by surprise. This comes a month after authorities ruled the death of beloved writer and journalist Jas Waters a suicide.
This seems unusual for sisters, especially Black women like Tamar and Jas. When news broke, fans and loved ones of both commented on their bubbly personalities, otherworldly strength, and ability to persevere. That this would become part of their narratives was irreconcilable for some. The data would agree. Statistically, Black women are least likely to take their own lives. Within mental health data, this phenomenon is known as the “Black-White paradox.” Essentially, it suggests that Black women should be as prone to suicidal ideation and attempts as their White and non-White counterparts. Yet as many sisters suggest they lean on God and their family to navigate mental health crises…
