How to Not Feel Lonely on Valentine’s Day

It’s the day of love. Why not practice loving yourself?

Jolie A. Doggett
ZORA
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4 min readFeb 12, 2021

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Valentine’s Day is going to be hard for many people this year. Lots of folks are separated from loved ones and significant others due to Covid-19 restrictions still in place since last spring. And then there are the folks like me who’ve been rolling solo dolo on Valentine’s Day long before lockdown prevented any chances of coupling up!

But hey, just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you have to let Valentine’s Day go by like an ordinary day. ZORA spoke with sexologist, therapist, and relationship expert Shamyra Howard about practical ways to show yourself some love and carry it with you beyond the holiday. Her advice will help you find new ways to indulge in yourself every day of the year.

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Romance yourself

“It is absolutely possible to celebrate Valentine’s Day if you’re single, and I recommend that you celebrate yourself, especially this year,” Howard told ZORA. “If you are a person who is just super busy and stressed and just needs a break, I recommend a staycation. You might get a hotel room. You might indulge in naps or food or both. You might get you a bottle of wine or your favorite drink. You can just relax.”

“If you want a chef to prepare some dinner, call one up and have dinner delivered to you,” Howard added. “Have flowers, chocolates, strawberries delivered to you. Add an element of surprise and allow them to choose the delivery time or have something sent to your job.”

Hype yourself up in some lingerie and then sex yourself down.

Make it sexy

“If you’re someone looking for some sexual action and you don’t have a partner, you can also utilize the staycation method and bring a couple of toys,” Howard suggested. “LoveHoney.com has this one toy called the Womanizer—that is what you want to get if you’re really wanting some type of sexual experience and pleasure. And I promise you, you will not miss [being with] a person! You can also try a vibrating…

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Jolie A. Doggett
ZORA
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