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How to Know If Your Significant Other Is an Undercover Sexist
That benevolent behavior may actually be playing into negative stereotypes
He slides into your DMs and you two get to chatting. Your first date is happy hour at the local oyster bar. The next date is floor seats at a Lizzo concert. Before you know it, you’re grabbing your ankles as Adina Howard’s “Freak Like Me” bumps in the background. You’re finally connecting with someone again and it feels really good — how did you get so lucky to find someone so sexy, smart, funny, and amazing in bed? You deserve! You invite him to Friendsgiving with your squad from college and all is going well until he says, with a smile, “Make sure you put extra macaroni and cheese on my plate, babe.”
You pause. You look around to see who else might be posing as “babe” today. Seeing no one else, you realize that your boo expects you to fix him a plate of food like he isn’t an able-bodied adult in need of no assistance with the mechanics of fixing one’s own plate. You can’t stop the incredulous “excuse me?!” before it escapes your lips. Bae looks at you confused and responds with a chuckle, “What? A man can’t get his plate fixed?”
You quickly glance around to make sure no one else can hear this exchange. You’ve only been dating a few…
