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How to Get the Mind- and Back-Blowing Sex You Desire
It begins with not settling for the mediocre
Don’t ask me the last time I had the kind of sex that makes me send a confused, rambling voice message to my group chat about how good it was. I’m talking about the kind of sex that makes you want to send their mama flowers or an Edible Arrangement in appreciation for bringing them into this world. As an older, “seasoned” woman who has had phenomenal sex, the bar has been set pretty high for me and because I’m not as interested in casual sex as I once was, having that kind of mind-blowing experience is pretty rare. I’m not alone, so let’s discuss how we can make that magic happen more often and leave the mediocre sex behind.
First, we need to stop settling for bad sex. Unfortunately, sex is too often considered something that happens to women and not with women. We can blame patriarchy for women being viewed as little more than receptacles for men to dump into, even women who aren’t into having sex with men. When women assert sexual agency, we’re often vilified and deemed as unworthy of respect, love, and kindness. I’m a vocal sex-positive feminist and for years, I’ve observed and experienced the harsher criticisms of women who dare reclaim their bodily and sexual agency. This is particularly true for sex workers who *gasp*…
