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How to Get Over a Bad Breakup
Even though you might feel otherwise, you can pick up the pieces and move on with your life
It’s over. For a while, you were stuck in a haze because you couldn’t wrap your head around it, but it’s finally sinking in: Your relationship is done. You remember the early butterflies so vividly, the way you smiled when you heard their voice, and the scent they would leave in your sheets. You remember the late nights on the phone and the stolen kisses in Target. You keep replaying the passionate “I love yous” and you still don’t quite understand how you two are no longer “us,” but it’s real. It happened. And now you have to pick up the pieces and move on with your life. Alone.
For many of us, we can sense when things are going awry. There are more arguments over little things that mean nothing. We spend less intimate time together and make excuses for why we can’t be present for our partners. Most times, we catch ourselves and try to make it work. We bring it up and want to address it head-on, maybe even suggest counseling or mediation; if you’ve been together for several years, you know that relationships ebb and flow, so downtime doesn’t have to signal the end. Other times, though, we know the end is inevitable and when it is finally over, it’s still hard to process.
