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How to Deal With Jealousy When It Threatens Your Relationship
Hint: The answer is to rely heavily on trust
There are times in our lives when we don’t quite feel as strong as we would like. We are weighed down by doubts, unsure of the things we once knew to be real and absolutely true. Our minds wander, and our thoughts spin all types of possibilities, because deep down, we are feeling threatened, scared, and insecure. Unfortunately, these feelings come together and often manifest in jealousy, and we don’t always take the healthiest approaches to how we manage jealousy when we experience it. Let’s dig a bit deeper into the causes and how we can prevent jealousy from taking over our lives and ruining our relationships.
Intimate partnerships rely heavily on trust; without trust, your relationship is doomed to fail. It takes time to build a strong, trusting relationship. Sometimes we rush into relationships with people who knock us off our feet. It’s important to take things slowly and really get to know someone. Ask deeper questions about their fundamental beliefs and approaches to intimate partnerships so you get a better sense of how they navigate tricky situations. What is their stance on cheating, for example? How do they define it? What are some things you consider to be acts of betrayal, and how do they align with theirs? Learning more about these things earlier on can save a lot of pain later down the line.
If you’re suspicious that your partner is being deceitful or dishonoring your relationship, is it because of past experiences with betrayal?
It’s also important to confront your own relationship trauma. What are you bringing with you from the past that you’re projecting onto your new situation? If you’re suspicious that your partner is being deceitful or dishonoring your relationship, is it because of past experiences with betrayal? Your partner could be doing everything above the level, but if you haven’t reconciled your fears of being hurt, you may find yourself caught up in an unhealthy cycle of questioning everything they do, which will put a tremendous strain on your relationship. Being honest with your partner about your experiences can…
