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No Relationship Is Worth Losing Your Sense of Self

You had a life before you met your partner and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice that to keep it

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“Y“You changed. You changed to accommodate my shit and I began to resent you for it. I loved the woman who was strong and vibrant. I hate that I forced you to shrink yourself and I hate that…




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Feminista Jones

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