THE CAKE
Having a Me-First Attitude Isn’t Selfish — It’s Self-Preservation
20 ways to invest in your own self-care and set boundaries for all
When I tell people that my motto is “me first,” the first response is typically that I am selfish. I can understand how that can catch someone off guard, especially when they are not accustomed to the concept of boundaries and self-care.
The concept behind “me first” is that if I am not at my best mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally, it is almost impossible for me to perform at a high level and show up as the highest version of a CEO, team member, parent, friend, and every other role I play in the lives of others.
I have heard people say things like “I need to make time for self-care” or “I need to get better at self-care” which leads me to believe that most have no concept of what self-care actually looks like for them, and it looks different for everyone. Today, we see the phrase “self-care” tossed around like “all natural,” “organic,” and “diversity” — buzzwords that sound good but that people don’t really understand in a practical sense.
When I started on my entrepreneurship journey at the age of 21, I immediately jumped into the pattern of getting minimal rest due to working all night and…