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Fatso, Big Head and Other Names My Parents Called Me

It was a miracle I didn’t have body image issues growing up

Black mother talking to her daughter outside.
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I’ve called my son “Big Head” twice in public. The first time was at his pediatrician’s office while he was being examined. His pediatrician looked at me horrified. I was outwardly embarrassed, but slightly amused internally. The second time was with a friend and her child…




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Carolyn Desalu

Carolyn Desalu

Essayist + lifestyle writer. Bylines in Thrillist, Catapult, Essence, The Globe and Mail, Atlanta Journal-Constitution + more. Literary agents, holler.

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