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Don’t Be ‘the Other Woman’
These tips will help you avoid side-chick status
“Hello, may I speak to Barbara?
Barbara, this is Shirley.
You might not know who I am,
But the reason I am calling you is because
I was going through my old man’s pockets this morning
And I just happened to find your name and number…”
In 1974, soul singer Shirley Brown released the cult classic song “Woman to Woman” in which she confronts the woman with whom her man has been having an affair. It’s a passionate plea to the woman, Barbara, to leave the man alone because she has no intention of letting go of the man she loves and the relationship has invested her time and energy into building.
The song resonated with a lot of women because so many had been dealing with infidelity in silence, largely because men cheating has been seen as just something they do. And because divorce was a huge taboo until the mid-to-late ’70s, many women accepted cheating as something that came with being married.
What we don’t talk enough about is what it’s like to be the person on the side who finds out the love of their life is…
