Aren't You Tired of the Gender War?

Short Answer: No.

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5 min readJan 31, 2024


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No matter if we're ready to face it or not, the gender war is real.

Sure, we haven't reached the point where we're literally engaged in mass hand-to-hand combat, but we're also not that far off.

Daily, I am asked by men, "Aren't y'all tired of the gender war?"

Speaking quite candidly, my answer is a loud and resounding "no!"

Why, do you ask? Well, let me explain…

Is it a War or Karma?

We live in a world that is unfair to women and girls on many levels. Sure, there were times in which simply being female almost guaranteed that you could live a "soft life," complete with protection, sex, a relatively faithful husband, and more.

Today, this is no longer the case. In fact, as a Black woman, the odds of getting married to a Black man, or any man, are much slimmer than other races of women. And Black women have been forced to become "the backbone of the community" with no reward or regard. Somehow, these same men complain about how Black women aren't submissive.

Pick a struggle!

Yet and still, Black men all over Beyonce's internet gather to discuss how women are out of line while avoiding their own accountability. For…



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