Aren't You Tired of the Gender War?

Short Answer: No.

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5 min readJan 31, 2024


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No matter if we're ready to face it or not, the gender war is real.

Sure, we haven't reached the point where we're literally engaged in mass hand-to-hand combat, but we're also not that far off.

Daily, I am asked by men, "Aren't y'all tired of the gender war?"

Speaking quite candidly, my answer is a loud and resounding "no!"

Why, do you ask? Well, let me explain…

Is it a War or Karma?

We live in a world that is unfair to women and girls on many levels. Sure, there were times in which simply being female almost guaranteed that you could live a "soft life," complete with protection, sex, a relatively faithful husband, and more.

Today, this is no longer the case. In fact, as a Black woman, the odds of getting married to a Black man, or any man, are much slimmer than other races of women. And Black women have been forced to become "the backbone of the community" with no reward or regard. Somehow, these same men complain about how Black women aren't submissive.

Pick a struggle!

Yet and still, Black men all over Beyonce's internet gather to discuss how women are out of line while avoiding their own accountability. For instance, Black women have been blamed for everything from having children out of wedlock to raising their kids to be convicts.

However, what you don't hear is men holding their deadbeat friends accountable, nor do you hear any men who were raised by single mothers speak about how the lack of male role models affected them.

At the same time, these same men have gone above and beyond to label Black women as the most inferior on Earth. And for the life of me, I don't understand why.

So many of them have created single-parent homes while refusing to marry the women. Many have been absent from their children's lives but somehow blame the mothers for it, etc. I've seen that Black women have sacrificed everything to keep their families/communities together.

But all good things come to an end — now we're here.

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