Ambitious, and absolutely not sorry

Christina M. Tapper
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4 min readAug 7, 2020

ZORA Fam,

There’s nothing new about women being criticized for being “too ambitious,” but every now and then there’s a story that deserves a fresh eye roll 🙄. Just take a look at the judgment and commentary around Kamala Harris last week, which reminded us of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s enduring words: “We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man.”

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For women, particularly Black women and women of color, our ambition isn’t always appealing. Rather, it can be a demerit. I know this firsthand. Last year, an executive at a digital sports platform reached out to me to gauge my interest in joining his company. When I shared with him my career aims — to continue in leadership roles — the exec remarked, with a breathy chuckle, “Well, that’s very ambitious of you.” The words, and tone, stung. I later learned that the role he looked to put me in was too small for me — someone who gladly owns her ambition. Even when the men in my past have told me, in the most overt or covert ways, that my ambition can be intimidating.

Honestly, if someone has a problem with your ambition, that’s a clear sign of their insecurity.

Folks will be threatened by your big dreams, by how you move in the world, by the way in which you don’t settle for less. That’s on them — and never on you. The truth is, we will always be too much for a world that thinks too little of us. Even when it’s our ambition shaping this world for the better.

When we unabashedly own our gifts and our drive, folks want to knock us down by weaponizing our ambition. It’s their attempt to keep us in check. No one who calls us “too ambitious” has any right to check us. Instead, they need to check themselves.

Take care,

Christina M. Tapper, ZORA deputy editor

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Christina M. Tapper
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Written by Christina M. Tapper

Rule breaker, champion of women and education, and recovering sports journalist.

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