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After living through a pandemic, I feel anything but “hot.”

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When Meg Thee Stallion’s “Hot Girl Summer” went viral in early summer 2019, women from all walks of life quickly jumped on the bandwagon. Then, COVID hit, and summer 2020 was officially canceled and consisted mainly of online DJ parties, what we now know as Versuz, and way too many social media dance challenges. But now, as the world has begun to reopen and it appears that summer 2021 is scheduled to be on and popping, handfuls of women are gearing up for a hot girl summer 2020 redo, and…

We’re not going back to “normal.”

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Kimani Jones had been happily working in the wedding industry in New York City as a content creator when news about Covid-19 broke. She, like many workers across the country, was sent home with her laptop and work file, assured her job was safe and told to return when the pandemic blew over. Shortly after, she received an email that the company was laying off the team, but would bring them back. But that never happened.

The unemployment program payouts were dwindling, and even with the stimulus payments, Jones and her chronically-ill husband needed…

Seeking mental health care gave me a sense of purpose and peace.

Once upon a time I felt fine! Well put-together and living the best version of me, I was pretty fantastic! I’d heard of mental health therapy, but that was for people with big problems. Granted, there were probably a couple tiny things I could improve here and there, but nothing I needed to lay on someone’s couch for while I sobbed into tissues about my issues. Not interested! If I encountered road blocks in life I was smart enough to figure them out. I’d dodge, adjust and roll with the punches. After a persuasive self-pep talk, I’d then wait for…


Amber the Alchemist pulls a tarot and an oracle card just for you

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There is magic in the unexpected this week. Serendipitous synchronicities are omens. Use them to embrace your trust-relationship with self, your ability to co-create with the universe, and your ability to be a catalyst for healing.

Healing isn’t linear nor is it always sparked by intention. There are opportunities for us to heal all of our bodies (spiritual, mental, emotional, physical bodies daily), but are we attentive and receptive to them?

Spirit meets us with a challenge this week to reconnect to our own magic — the power of infinite possibility — and lean into our child-like innocence.

Through the…

Saluting the ladies who forge an older — or single — path to being a mommy

Viola Davis and her daughter, Genesis Tennon, in 2017 at the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Photo: Paul Archuleta/FilmMagic/Getty Images

Recently Tiffany Haddish revealed that she is taking parenting classes in preparation for adoption. Haddish, 41, told E’s Daily Pop show that she wanted to adopt an older child, age 5 or older. Today, more and more women are choosing motherhood later in life — and choosing to love on older, adopted children as well. There are more options than ever before to help achieve these goals including in vitro fertilization (IVF) and intrauterine insemination (IUI), surrogacy, and, of course, adoption.

Haddish is not the only celebrity looking into adoption as a pathway to motherhood. Celebrities including Academy Award-winner Viola…

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Venus ended her time in Taurus and flitted over to Gemini on May 8, increasing the desire to chat and exchange insight with people who pique our curiosity and those who can help us impact our community. Did you feel it?

Meanwhile here is one way to think about and work with this week’s new moon energy:

May 11 brings the Taurus new moon, which asks us to do the work to grow. Perhaps you need a new landscape to grow on or new seeds to plant or new nurturing methods. Either way, this is a great lunation for making…

May’s astrological messages ask us to look within

May kicks off with us still reeling from the revelations of the Scorpio full moon while also seeking fresh definitions of stability. These horoscopes are written with you in mind. Short on time? Think about the below three things to keep in mind for the month. Sitting down with your coffee or tea? Peep the detailed astrological summary of the month. Scroll beyond that to find specific thoughts for your sign.

Three things to keep in mind

  • How do you nurture the people/possessions/knowledge you value?
  • The Saturn retrograde could feel like your mind is being blown. Let it.
  • The Mercury retrograde in Gemini approaches at the…

What does it mean to be a mother? What does it mean to be a Black mother? Those two questions continue to yield entirely different answers in America today. As the biracial mother of a 4-year-old girl with both Asian American and African American roots, and a father from Spain to boot, I am constantly aware of the way her identity is being shaped by the sights and smells and sounds that she takes in every day — on television, at the playground, and in her preschool classroom.

“Her hair is curly like mine,” she’ll say when we see another…

Get the most out of your alone time with these masturbation tips.

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May is National Masturbation Month and we honestly can’t think of a better way to show yourself some love than by really loving on yourself.

Masturbation isn’t something to be ashamed, secretive or embarrassed about. In fact, self pleasure is not only a good way to pass the time, but it can help you feel less stressed, feel more motivated and just feel good about life.

[Solo sex] is about more than just spending a couple of feel-good minutes in bed. Intimate alone time should leave you more…

Enough with playing it nice and safe in the fight against anti-Blackness.

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While following the Derek Chauvin trial, I’ve noticed one common theme that also struck me immediately following the gruesome killing of George Floyd — White people speaking out against racism after the fact. It seems that a healthy handful of White folks wait to express their outrage and disgust over racial injustice after a highly publicized or sensationalized tragedy takes place. Often, after a new hashtag begins trending on social media, a variety of tweets and posts speaking out against anti-Blackness and anti-Black violence soon follow. Which, I suppose, is fine, but very few extend far beyond their comfort zone…

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