8 Uncomfortable Truths I’ve Learned Living Alone in Lockdown

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7 min readFeb 15, 2021

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The freedom is good until it’s bad

When you think of the positive aspects of living alone, this was probably the first one that came to you. But is it all positive? And what about when a global pandemic is living outside? Can you truly be free inside? I don’t think you thought that part through.

But it’s okay, some of the most memorable decisions aren’t thought through.

It was definitely on the top of the list for reasons why you felt compelled to just go for it. The freedom to do things as you please knowing that you only have yourself to answer to sounded really attractive. No one to challenge you or judge your lazy episodes. You can freely binge-watch The Handmaid’s Tale and cry three times knowing no one can see you and still choose to wait for the next season. Even though you know you will 100% cry again. The behavior police are nowhere to be found.

But you need regularity. You need to create a feeling of home. You need some certainty. Shutdowns for you mean most days will be spent with little to no human interaction. There will be pockets of moments that if unplanned they may fill you with loneliness, or is it boredom? You will struggle to differentiate the two. So, get you some hobbies girl! It is possible to love living alone; you don’t need companionship all the time. Now I’m not saying ignore people. Don’t do that! But I do want you to know that you are perfectly capable of entertaining yourself.

There will be times when you will feel like you need another pair of hands or a second opinion. You will want someone to look after you when you’re sick or you just don’t feel great. Someone to go to shops or make you a nice meal. That’s okay. Feel those things. Don’t push them away. But don’t sit in them either.

Make yourself a nice meal. Present it as you would to someone you love. Make it fancy, wear that dress. And eat, please eat well.

You can’t run away from the loud silence

You won’t notice this until a friend points it out. On a FaceTime call, she will randomly say on a particular night where she happens to be alone:

“I don’t know how you do it. The…

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