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4 Tips On Curing The “I Got It” Syndrome

Asking for support is an act of resistance. Author Elayne Fluker’s new book offers help to “unapologetically ambitious women.”

L'Oreal Thompson Payton
ZORA
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5 min readJun 29, 2021

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Author Elayne Fluker thinks you should consider saying “yes,” the next time someone asks if you need help. Image: Mecca Gamble

“If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” It’s a widely shared proverb of questionable origins (though most attribute it to the continent of Africa), but for author, entrepreneur and podcast host Elayne Fluker, it’s a way of life.

In her debut book, Get Over “I Got It,” Fluker encourages “unapologetically ambitious women” to embrace support in every facet of life. To help women combat “I Got It” Syndrome, which she defines as a way of proving we can do it all by ourselves, Fluker has developed the following acronym H.E.L.P.:

H. = Having it all doesn’t mean doing it all alone.

“A lot of times we’re doing things on our own just to prove that we can. The most successful people in the world will tell you they have support — that there’s a team behind them, they have a mentor, or family that’s helping out. No one’s doing it alone and those who are are struggling to maintain that way.”

E. = Ask empowering questions.

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L'Oreal Thompson Payton
ZORA
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L’Oreal is a freelance writer and editor who’s dedicated to uplifting and inspiring Black women and girls through storytelling. Learn more at LTintheCity.com.