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10 Ways to Have the Best Sex of Your Life All By Yourself

Get the most out of your alone time with these masturbation tips.

May is National Masturbation Month and we honestly can’t think of a better way to show yourself some love than by really loving on yourself.

Masturbation isn’t something to be ashamed, secretive or embarrassed about. In fact, self pleasure is not only a good way to pass the time, but it can help you feel less stressed, feel more motivated and just feel good about life.

[Solo sex] is about more than just spending a couple of feel-good minutes in bed. Intimate alone time should leave you more feeling educated about your body and more empowered about what makes you feel satisfied in and out of the bedroom.

“A lot of people when they hear self-pleasure, they automatically think of masturbation, and that is an all-time favorite form, but if we’re really going to talk about self-pleasure as it relates to Black women, we need to talk about engaging in activities that are satisfying to you. It’s all about giving yourself permission to do things that feel good,” sexologist Shamyra Howard says.

We spoke to a a sexologist who gave us her top 10 tips to have the most exciting and explosive solo play time. Do something nice for (and to) yourself and check it out the article below from The Pleasure Principle!



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